Change is inevitable. Change is the only constant. The only thing that never changes is that everything changes. The list goes on and on and if you search for #change on Instagram you’ll find a thousand inspirational memes on the topic, mostly written over pictures of clouds or mountain ranges. The issue is that whilst most people want to change things about their lives, only a small percentage will actually get up and do something about it. They’ll like the heavily filtered inspirational image of something that was beautiful enough on its own, they might even repost it. But going out there and making a change…?
The flow of one season into another is often a trigger, that back to school feeling can sometimes lead you to think…what if things were different. But why is it that we so rarely take the plunge?
I recently went to a talk on change and resilience and saw this formula. Formulas usually and unpleasantly remind me of Microsoft excel spreadsheets but this is one worth knowing and I wanted to share it as I think it will really help anyone who is struggling to put their finger on the why not.
f(V+D+S) > R = Change
Vision. What do you want. What are your dreams? What is it that you see in your life that isn’t currently in it.
Dissatisfaction. What is it that you see as ‘wrong’ in your life? It might be your job, your house, your relationship or something as small as your hair colour or your car but however major or minor, taking stock of how it’s making you feel is crucial if you want to do something about it.
Steps. How do I get there? What do I need to do? What steps do I need to take to achieve this vision. Operationally speaking...how would I make this a reality.
Resistance. I can’t do it. They won’t let me. I can’t afford it. What if it goes wrong. What if I fail? What if I do it and hate it. Isn’t is safer to stay here? If it ain’t broke don’t fix it. I don’t want to complain. It sounds like a lot of work. This part of the equation is what is holding you back.
f(V+D+S) < R = Change
So there you have it, if the sum of your vision, dissatisfaction and steps are greater than the resistance...change happens. If not, we stay right where we are. Perhaps forever and then in old age say to ourselves...I wish I’d done that. I wish I’d changed this.
Look at your own equation and if you want change to happen, tweak one of the components. It sounds so simple, and of course in reality it isn’t, but if it was easy everyone would do it. And probably be a lot happier.
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