Do you believe in the power of positive thought and manifesting change? Or are you a skeptic? It is a relatively new concept to me that I have grasped with both hands to shape my own future, and by writing this blog post, I am taking it public as well as telling you how you can do it too. I talk a lot about the art of upstyling and to me this is the ultimate upstyle, changing the entire direction of your life!
I've been talking a lot recently about what it's like to be in a long distance relationship during Coronavirus, both on my Instagram and also in Glamour. Re-reading this blog post I wrote just after I returned from seeing my boyfriend in San Francisco in early March also feels like stepping into the past. We had no idea what was to come. Eight weeks later and I am now at the midway point between coming back from California, and my flight on July 21st to return there. I booked it pre travel ban, pre lock down and pre 36,000 deaths from COVID-19 in the UK alone. It is a 3 month trip, to get to know the city and state where I hope to then move to pending a visa application at the end of 2020. I will be applying for a business visa, based around my writing and Rosanna ETC as a brand, which I aim to grow into something huge with products, brand collaborations and more.
I have an immigration lawyer. I have found tenants for my flat who move in the day I (hopefully) fly. I have told my work that I will be leaving. All without knowing whether or not I will actually be able to go, and with my business still very much in its laboratory phase. Does this seem crazy to you? Sometimes I think to myself, am I mad? What am I doing? I am leaving the security of my home and my job and take off into the unknown. But in the wise words of my beautiful friend and coach Charly, founder of Wellness with a Why, 'the cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek'.
I have very clear, very specific goals that I think about constantly, and whenever I worry about what could go wrong I correct myself and focus on what could go RIGHT. Set your intentions and then manifest them into reality.
And here I am, setting mine publicly. It was August 2019 that I finally decided to make a go of this, I shook off the ropes that tied me to the safe path, and went after my dreams instead. Since then I have built a website myself, written 60 blog posts (two each week), taken thousands of photos, attended countless webinars, read books, religiously studied industry leaders for tips, seen my mentor once a month, talked to strategists, learned editing and design skills and basically thrown myself headfirst into the career I want to create. I realised in doing so, that the best and worst case scenarios were both things I could live with. This is a really helpful tool if you are considering manifesting change, as is remembering that very few things in life are reversible aside from death and taxes!
Worst case scenario: The business fails, or my relationship breaks down, or both! But...I tried my hardest. I gave it my all. And by not trying, I know I would spend the rest of my life regretting what could have been.
Best case scenario: I get everything I have ever wanted in life. A job where I get to create and build an empire. Abundance. Love.
Not really so tough a choice now is it?
This blog started as a place where I could talk about my career in events and be a resource for others in that field but it is growing already and evolving into more of a hub for all the things I love and that inspire me. It is still a destination for someone in need of advice on planning their wedding or event but now there is more style and tips on living well with my story woven in. I am opening an Etsy shop for downloadable event tools like invitations, budget and schedule templates, wall art and more, and I dream of making physical products too. I would love to bring out a homeware range, jewellery, swimwear, a cookery book...the list goes on. My writing is coming on too, with commissions now coming in for me to write elsewhere for other publications and I am so excited. Plus, I do need money for this new life of mine so all the legs of the stool help it to become stable. I want to have 4 income streams, plus savings and investments. I am lucky enough to own my flat in London and I also have savings, so that just leaves the income (eek).
If you are also at a tipping point in your life and are thinking about manifesting change, my tips for going after your dreams are:
Create a positive support network around you, and focus on their words alone. That isn't to say you should be blind to caution and not take care of yourself, but some people might try and hold you back because of their own fear of change. Be careful to recognise this and not take it as criticism of your baby. Be grateful for their love and care but don't use that as your fuel.
Be motivated by joy, as it is infinitely more productive than being motivated by fear. Visualise your success and remember that anxiety is fear of a future that doesn't exist. Instead of thinking about what could go wrong, focus on what could go right!
Think about your worst and best case scenarios. Can you live with/without them?
Finally, think about the three 10s. I read this tip somewhere and have adopted it as think it is brilliant. For each action you take, think about how you might feel or the impact it might have in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years. For me when I decided to go for this, to uproot my life and start a new business in a new country, it was:
10 minutes - excited, exhilarated, full of energy and ideas.
10 months - still all of those things, but feeling the pressure. Working really hard, perhaps tight for money, making huge decisions and hoping with all my heart that it works out.
10 years - At the helm of a business I created myself, living in California with the love of my life with all I ever dreamed of.
I am now at the 10 month point and I can tell you that it is true, I am feeling/doing all of those thing right now. But it was to be expected and I know I need to push through it.
I have been joking to friends and family that I am ploughing on with my plans and Coronavirus better get out of the way, but I don't mean it flippantly. This pandemic has affected all of us and seeing people close to me suffer losses of all kinds has been heartbreaking. But I have Tuesday the 21st July (and beyond) set in my sights and I am doing everything I can to manifest it into the day I want it to be, where I board the plane and begin the next chapter. Of course I have a contingency in case I can't go. But I am not giving that plan my energy as it just gives it power.
So that's me signing off, it is daunting to write this style of post but the bigger the risk, the bigger the potential reward. Are you in a similar boat to me and manifesting change? If so please get in touch I'd love to hear from you!